When questioned after an affair, many women will blame their cheating on a lack of romance and passion in their relationship.The routine of the relationship might become stale and predictable and the excitement and attention from a doting third party might be more than an unsatisfied woman might be able to stand.
This is why it is so important that you should do your best to fulfill your partner’s need for romance, intimacy and passion. Most men aren’t very good at reading the “signs” and seduction, in general, is a skill that most guys could use some improvement with.
The Little Things That Mean A Lot – It is often said that it isn’t the big things, like an expensive present for her birthday or anniversary, that touch a woman’s heart. Yes, remembering these important occasions is important, but it is the little things that you do that will tell her that you care and create the foundation that leads to intimacy with your partner. Little things like filling up her gas tank in her car so she doesn’t have to, leaving her little notes saying that you love her when she will find them later, a few hand picked flowers for her or a card just because you were thinking of her will mean more than an expensive piece of jewelry.
Knowing What To Say – Actively listening to her and knowing what to say can make all the difference in the world to a woman. Just listening and agreeing with her and affirming for her that you think that she is wonderful, intelligent and beautiful can be one of the biggest turn-ons for a woman. Be sincere in your compliments and don’t try to solve her problems. Usually she will just want to talk or vent and have you share the burden of whatever is troubling her.
At other times it is the witty banter that was probably present when the two of you first got together that can create intimacy and passion in your relationship. Flirt with her! You might be surprised how powerful one little compliment can be. Tell her how beautifully her eyes sparkle when she smiles. Tell her how hot you think she looks just after she gets out of the shower. Go overboard and really make her feel beautiful and desirable. You are the mirror through which she sees how attractive she is.
Knowing What Turns Her On – Figuring out exactly what flips her switch can be complicated for many men. Each woman is unique in this regard but you can take some hints from what kind of movies she likes to watch, books she reads and by doing a little homework.
In addition to simply being perceptive in noticing what directly precedes any sort of positive change in her desire to be close to you, a fact finding mission might be in order. When you feel that the opportunity is right begin asking questions. For instance, if you’re watching one of her favorite movies ask her if she thinks that the leading man is hot. If she says that she does, ask her what she finds attractive about him. Is it his looks or the way that he kisses? Is it the things that he says in the movie or is it the way he dresses or is it his sense of humor? A lot can be learned by asking questions. Take notes either mentally or write this stuff down so you don’t forget.
Touching – Something as simple as holding her hand when you’re in the car or touching her back when you are close to her can create and maintain the connection that most women desire with their man. Putting your arm across the back of her chair when you are seated beside her or around her shoulder when you are walking shows that you care and want her close to you.
Cuddling on the couch and in bed at night are great with most women but some women are funny about this. Some women can take it in small doses and some might only wish to cuddle when they’re in the mood. You will have to look for signs that she’s not in the mood for cuddling such as pulling away or not touching you back. For a woman that isn’t in a cuddling mood such unwanted touching can be annoying and counterproductive. Figure out the signs and let her body language tell you when she’s in the mood for cuddling and when she isn’t.
Although this is just a short article on seduction you can see that seduction is an art. It is about more than just your handsome good looks or lack there of. Seduction is about knowing and acting upon what you know will turn your partner on. Many things will be similar with many different women but each woman has her own particular hot buttons that will secure your place in her heart forever. Once you do that you have very few worries about infidelity and you will have a very happy woman on your hands.
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Good luck!
